You've heard us talk about the role our thinking plays in our relationship with food. Today we want to look at how our thinking has two components, content and feeling. This can help understand how we can use this understanding to find more peace in our lives and create a healthy relationship with food.
As we see it, there are two components to a thought. The content part helps get us to Costco or create a business plan. It helps us navigate the outer world around us. But the intention behind thinking isn't just to get us from here to there, it's to help us move through the world in a way that we experience joy and happiness and avoid pain and difficulty.
Getting to Costco is on the outside, but our experience while we're going there is what matters most. Our inner experience is where we experience ease, joy and peace that makes our lives enjoyable, and that is on the inside.
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Our experience of what's happening isn't actually the feeling of what is happening. Our experience is what we're thinking and feeling ABOUT what's happening.
As a quick example, think of two people on a roller coaster. One is terrified, the other exhilarated. Is it the roller coaster creating their experience, or the different thinking each is having ABOUT the roller coaster?
Knowing this, what if our feelings can help us navigate our inner experience to find more ease, love and peace within ourselves?
When we feel tension, what if rather than looking for how to change the circumstance on the outside to feel better, like getting in a shorter line at the market, we look to see if our experience is coming from our thinking ABOUT what's happening?
The way Connie and I are finding this helps us is that it brings us to a moment of pause to consider that it may be our thinking. And when we pause and relax a moment, we no longer rush into trying to manage the situation on the outside to feel better.
And with this pause, we sometimes see the thinking we're having ABOUT the situation that's causing the tension. But even if we don't see that exactly, with the pause to consider our thinking, we begin to let go of the resistance we're having. We let go a little bit of the thinking that this shouldn't be happening and our minds settle down.
From that settled mind, our feelings start to settle down and our inner experience changes from one of tension, to one of greater ease and clarity.
So, here's our question for you today: What if finding a way to feel better when we feel tense, anxious or even angry, can be found by not resisting what's happening?
What we are finding is that ending the resistance, ends the thought that something (that is happening) shouldn't be happening. And this puts and end to the negative feelings.
Give it a try and let us know what you think. If you have any questions, leave us a comment below and we can set up a free 30-minute conversation to discuss it.
The recipe this week is a Creamy Dill Dressing. It has quickly become one of our favorites with all the fresh dill available from our local farmers now.
To your Amazing Health,
Connie and Bill
Creamy Dill Dressing
- 1 cup raw cashews
- Handful of raisins, about ½ cup
- 3 tablespoons nutritional yeast
- 2 tablespoons vinegar
- 2 tablespoons Coconut Aminos
- 1 tablespoon capers
- 1 tablespoon Dijon mustard
- 1 lemon, juiced
- 2 garlic cloves, peeled
- ½ - ¾ cup of fresh dill, loosely packed
- Ground black pepper to taste
- 1½ cups filtered water
Add all ingredients to a high-speed blender and blend on high for 1 minute.
Enjoy on cooked greens, vegetables or salads.